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Monday, October 25, 2010

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Please check all that apply. This year for Halloween, I'll probably:

1) Dress the little ones up in costumes and escort them around our neighborhood to collect candy.

2) Check out the local haunted house.

3) Get together with some buddies to watch a scary movie.

4) Dress up in a devil suit and scare the neighborhood kids that knock on the front door.

5) Turn off the porch light and hope nobody finds me eating the three bags of Snickers bars I bought for trick-or-treaters.

Most people see nothing wrong with the activities listed above. They consider Halloween festivities to be a harmless way for their children to have an evening of "fantasy and fun."

But does this standard hold true for Christians? Is dressing up like ghosts, goblins, and witches really "no big deal"? Or is it glorifying and empowering Satan?

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Man's Duty

"The light of the body is the eye: therefore when thine eye is single, thy whole body also is full of light; but when thine eye is evil, thy body is full of darkness. Take heed therefore that the light which is in thee be not darkness. If thy whole body therefore be full of light, having no part dark, the whole shall be full of light, as when the bright shining of a candle doth give thee light." Luke 11:34-36.

This privilege is presented before every soul. Each may have heaven's light to guide him. If we discern the truth, and obey it, our whole course of action will be in accordance with the truth; for the truth sanctifies the receiver. But if men refuse to search for the truth as for hidden treasure, if the mind is pleased with the theories of error, the soul will remain in darkness. The course of the life, the development of the character, will be corrupted by false sentiments. Error never sanctifies. It can do no good. And how full of darkness is the soul that receives error as truth, and shapes his course of action in accordance with it.

By: Ellen White

August 23, 1898

Review & Herald

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

About Not-A-Guru

Make Your Dreams Bigger Than Your Memories

Not-A-Guru is:

not a guru
not a pastor of any church
not a catholic priest
not a bishop
not a clergyman

Not-A-Guru just wants to share his Precious Gems of Thought, Knowledge, Wisdom, Understanding, Wins, Realizations and more that he picks up along his life's journey. From his own personal experience and what he had gained from other people's experience. Recommends some reading materials and also write some reviews.

To some people Not-A-Guru is:

a son
a brother
a friend
a life coach
a minister
an educator
a preacher
a speaker
a nobody

Not-A-Guru is just an ordinary individual with an extra-ordinary passion: sharing practical philosophy and coaching practical tools that can help anyone who would receive them. He respects every individual for what they believe in: their opinions, beliefs and faiths. He has dreams bigger than life: Making his world a little better one person at a time.

Not-A-Guru wants one to become aware that one has the power of choice. The power to choose Life or Death; that every single moment of everyday one make choices, whether one is conscious about it or not.

Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality

That what one is today is largely the result of one's choices made yesterday.

That what one will become tomorrow will be largely the result of one's choices today.

That one would choose Life and not Death.

He is he.

Not-A-Guru can be reach at not-a-guru.blogspot.com

Friday, August 6, 2010

Love At First Sight

Yes. I believe in love at first sight. We were created to love. We are capable to love.

But love doesn't just happen by chance. Love is a decision, a choice that we all make. That decision is either auto or otherwise. Conscious or not. And basically influenced by our belief system. Love at first sight is basically an auto-decision.

We have created an ideal situation based on what we have experienced in the past, we do additions and subtractions, multiplications and divisions to visualize that ideal. As time goes by we pile up beliefs, conclusions, decisions and judgements. These influence the choice we make every single moment, that includes Love. To love or not to love.

We make automatic choices every moment and most of these choices we are not aware of. And one of these is "Love At First Sight".

Yes. Love at first sight Can happen. And when two people at an instant decides to create a relationship, and keep at it, it will flourish.

The keywords here are "create", "decides" and "keep on creating it". A relationship cannot exist with just one person.

And any relationship for this matter will flourish for as long as they both continue to "create" it.

One person Can Love At First Sight without the other. But for the relationship to flourish it needs two to tango. If one person do not agree, there can be no relationship.

Thursday, August 5, 2010

What is Love?

Love is a deep emotional feeling. And that feeling originates from one's decision, one's choice. That choice is influence from one's past. Whether one is conscious about it (which is ideal) or not.

We are capable of loving. "Falling in love" is a term we use for luck of a better definition of the chemistry which resulted from the unconscious automatic decision of one based on a stimuli or trigger. And "falling out of love" is a term we use when one is disillusioned and one then "chooses to stop creating" the love relationship anymore.

Yes, Love is a feeling, a deep emotional feeling. That feeling doesn't just fall from the sky, or just happen by chance. It is created, by ones will. It is the result of one's decision to love, governed by the power of choice, influenced and triggered by ones beliefs.

Nobody falls out of love, but that term is very handy to use to justify that one has stopped creating it. It is more acceptable to use because it frees one from being responsible of creating it--falling in and falling out. But it also starts a vicious cycle of falling in and falling out, because of that simple justification. Until one realizes that this feeling is a creation.

Does Love Hurt?

My short answer is Love Cannot Hurt.

When one loves someone, one creates happiness for the one being loved.

When one is in a relationship and stops loving it follows also that happiness is not created anymore. So it hurts. It hurts because Love is not there anymore.

One person already stops loving.

When two people *create" a relationship, there is affinity in love there, there is understanding and love is reciprocated.

The absence of understanding makes it hurt.

It's like when you ask someone or talk to someone and you don't get an answer or a reply, a space is created. In the relationship this space becomes bigger and bigger and separates a relationship, till one cannot occupy the same space with the same person any longer. and one just leave and go on to ask someone else so that one's question get an answer, and one don't get a big hurt by this.

In a relationship there is a couple of sticky elements: commitment & responsibility. This is what makes it hurt. Because this two elements get in the way when two people cannot come into agreement.

Disagreement is basically the result of not understanding in common terms of what commitment is and what responsibility is. there must be a common understanding of what these are before two can agree.

It is simple but it is not easy.

What makes it difficult? This word assume "ass-u-me".

Two people have wonderful feelings towards each other and so "assume" (in the back of there minds, unconsciously, automatically, based on past experiences) that each of there ideas of commitment & responsibility is understood except that the question of "do we really have the same understanding?" is not really answered matter-of-fact yet, so an answer is "assumed".

It does seem harmless but when two people just assume, there actions will speak louder and soon enough they will see their differences in their understanding about "commitment & responsibility" louder. And soon find themselves making an "ass of each other" -- ass of u and me -- ass-u-me.

Love cannot hurt. When one is in a relationship and got hurt. Perhaps, it was not love at all. It was something else.

But on the other hand, love has become a meaningless word. Meaningless in a sense that not everyone know what love really is.

Language today has evolved so fast especially the english language. It is successfully exported to a number of countries and also picks up words from these countries. Not only that, from which it originates, the meaning, the usage, the context, also evolved and continues to evolve. And in any language it could mean a lot of different things.

That when we ask what love is, we would get different answers, and some of these answers would conflict accross different groups, age, gender, race, creed, and the like.

I love your picture, I love ice cream, I love you--whatever that means.

Meaningless in a sense that even though we know what love means our actions doesn't show what love really is. Because love is now camouflage.

I love you, too.